Japanese Dating and Marriage
When Western men travel to Japan to meet a lady, lots of them will register with 1 of the Japanese dating firms that exist in abundance in Tokyo. Here, they connect with a few ladies who match their criteria, many of them youthful and cute and, for a high percentage of these blokes, engagement will come after the Japanese dating experience rapidly. They then have a younger spouse, who is typically very cute and has all the things a guy thinks he desires.
For the women who join the Japanese dating firms, they typically say they want a person who is kind, affectionate, will take care of me, has cash and steady employment. When they hook up with an older Western guy, through the Japanese dating agency, they take for granted he has all these things.
The issues begin for the women when they get back to the man’s home country to learn he is a working class fellow, with limited money and no life. I’ve heard of Japanese ladies who have wedded a man like this, traveled to England to live with them, and found within several weeks that this fellow and lifestyle is not possible for them. They turned up back on the first plane to Japan several weeks later. For Japanese women who choose this life, they desire to visit other countries. All Japanese however adore Japan and the lifestyle there. It only takes several weeks in the winter of England or the brashness of the US for them to realize they need no part of it.
For the guys, they get married to Japanese woman assuming they have got a lady who is pretty, young, will adore them and take care of them, and be their dream wife. Truth comes when the true persona of the Japanese wife comes forward. Japanese women have an outer demeanor of calm and obedience. In truth, Japanese girls control the home and have strong persona’s. For a American man who believed he had his subservient fantasy woman, it’s a huge wake up call. Suddenly their Japanese spouse is more exacting and harder to please than any European girl they’ve ever encountered.
Additionally there is the reality that the American bloke is deluding himself when he thinks a young, pretty Japanese lady is dating or wedding him for himself. These ladies are looking for a better life (who can condemn them!), and it’s all about economics. Most of them wouldn’t date the fifty-five year old American guy if they had other choices. But, if the fifty-five year old Western man comes with a large house, a new auto and a good bank account – yes, they’ll date him. Some time later though, when he comes to realize communication with his spouse is limited because her language skills are inadequate and she has different interests and tastes, that’s when these men begin thinking about splitting up.
For the ladies, Japan has become a country that is about dosh and luxury. Many typical Japanese girls have no recourse to obtaining this so, when a American man appears like a knight in shining armor, very few of them will decline his propositions. All that they have ever wanted is being offered to them. Why would they reject it? And they are even signing up with the Japanese dating websites in droves to obtain this lifestyle for themselves.